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itadakimasu_ t1_j9kf7hi wrote

This is true for everything. I can't clean my house because omg there's a lot of house to clean and everything needs doing and how can I do it all so I get paralysed and don't do anything. But if I aim to clean the bathroom then yeah the house is still a mess but at least the bathroom is clean, and maybe tomorrow I'll vacuum or something.

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chodgson625 t1_j9kdwvs wrote

Don't let the bad thoughts go round and round in your head endlessly. Audiobooks. Podcasts. Games ... anything that allows you to do what you do but engages your mind. Try and get really lost in your work maybe? Start asking your Uber clients for stories and compile them?

It's a cliche but time will fix you before long. A year from now you'll look back and this and think "wow thank god that happened"

Coping strategy from my old blog

Though we regard ourselves as striding forward into the future with the past behind us, the ancient Greeks thought of us as walking backwards into the future, with only the past visible as we leave it behind. As a variation on that I have a mental exercise that I try on drunken depressed friends I call Retrospective Fatalism.

In Retrospective Fatalism everything you did wrong in the past was always going to happen that way. Fate. Or God. Circumstance or human behavior, whatever, there never was any way to escape that fate. It was always going to happen.

Your future - now that's different. "Nothing is written" said Peter O’Toole in Lawrence of Arabia, and that has to be true. Mistakes you make in the future are completely your responsibility, particularly if they are repeats of stupid behavior you made in the past. But as they become the past... they were inevitable.

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RenzoARG t1_j9js0me wrote

This is actually one of those rare moments where a post in this group is actually right and useful!
Wasn't there a Japanese proverb similar to this?
something along the lines of: "If it wasnt done, do it. If it is done, do it better".

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theblondepenguin t1_j9jns3a wrote

My husband gets paralyzed by the idea that there is better out there. He won’t read a book because he isn’t sure that it is the most important knowledge. He won’t write because someone else could say it better.

I told him the other day that the most important knowledge is the one you absorb; by waiting for the best you are shutting yourself off from a wealth of information.

And who cares if someone can say it better, that doesn’t detract from what you have said maybe your iteration will help someone understand the “better” ones more completely maybe not, there being someone else who said it doesn’t detract from your voice

I haven’t convinced him so I will 100% be using this to enhance my conversation, because they said it better and that doesn’t detract from my voice it enhances it.

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