Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated

OrganicallyChemist t1_j9hcf8g wrote

Reply to [Text] I’m going through a break up and I need some friendly motivation. by NaughtyPlant

Went through a breakup just weeks before having to start dedicated period for step. Also was a 4 year long relationship. He dumped me. I was devastated. We moved across country when I started medschool, so I was super alone. I was financially absolutely dependent on him, as well. Best things I've done: reached out to my classmates, all of them, publicly via our group chat, with all of the vulnerability. Even though we are not close, I received an overwhelming amount of support from them. They hot me through the first month or so. Try it if you can. Another thing was this: every time a heart aching thought would come, I'd do this exercise ive learned in therapy where I would ask myself: 1. Is this thought true? 2. Is this thought kind? 3. Is this thought helpful?. None of the thoughts were. It really helped. Also, therapy. You know you can get through this. It just really sucks in the moment. Do what you need to do to get through this, be kind to yourself. This might not look pretty at the moment, but you'll get through this. Be kind to yourself. Reach out for help and support. Hang in there, you're not alone.

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stevej3n t1_j9h6afm wrote

Reply to [Text] How do you fix your life in your 30s after wasting about 8 years unemployed and living with family by sleeplessbearr

You did a lot of synthetic drugs and it probably messed up your brain chemistry. Your mind seems to jump around a lot based on reading your stream of consciousness word salad. I would look into taking care of that first and searching out any opportunities to do something, anything (maybe even without pay?) so you can find something you like to do.

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samsara_arasmas t1_j9gxleq wrote

Reply to comment by No_Sir_3600 in [Text] I need to find a higher paying job, but self doubt makes me feel like I can’t handle any job by thequeasydream

If she's got an auditory processing problem, steer well the fuck away from the construction industry, Jesus. Can't imagine how suggesting a workplace where you're subjected to a constant barrage of noise you have no control is beneficial, at all.

I'm speaking from experience. I struggle with noise, personal space etc and worked in construction for 5+ years. Horrid experience. Drills, saws, radios, loud double digit IQ yelling and screaming, orders being barked at you. Definitely not the industry to choose if you don't deal well with a high paced or highly strung environment.

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jam3s2001 t1_j9grigl wrote

Reply to comment by BigPickleKAM in [Image] The finish line don't have an expiration date by ReadilyDiverge30

I started and dropped out to join the army. Didn't start again til I was 26. I got my Bachelor's at 31 after a couple false starts, masters at 33. I'm 35 now and jumping back in to get my doctorate. The key to success is finding both motivation and discipline. My first time, I was motivated to go, but I also wanted the social experience and couldn't find a balance. After I finished the army, I had plenty of discipline but had to learn to be motivated because I was much older than my classmates and didn't have a real social connection. Then I got to grad school and was a lot closer to average age.

At the end of the day, though, nobody needs that stuff unless you are a nerd like me. Just figure out how you want to live your life and make that happen.

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