When I see people discussing college attendance while lacking basic language skills (or the will to use them), I realize how much trouble our society is in.

Probably visa guy started bachelor way before tutor guy, then got held up because of visa issues. Then when he got back, tutor guy was now his senior, tutored him, then went on 8 year hiatus. Visa guy finished bachelor and probs masters/degree, idk whatever qualifications to become a prof during the 8 year it takes for tutor guy to return. It's possible.

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He could have tutored him in English.

Be kind to yourself. A break up can be very hard and that’s ok. You are allowed to be a mess, to be sad, to cry and whatever. You’re allowed to have stupid unreasonable thoughts. You are going through a very emotional rollercoaster right now and all your feelings are validated. Don’t feel you’re a fool having tried to change his mind, it’s all part of the process. But please keep in mind to be kind to yourself. You’re allowed to doubt things right now, but try to picture yourself as a very good friend. What would you tell your friend if she said she was stupid?

I can’t say I have been in your shoes, every breakup is different, but I’ve felt the same in some ways. I also broke up a relationship where my partner was checked out. She didn’t quite say it out loud but it was very obvious. I too called her and begged her to reconsider (even though I made the decision). I felt the anvil, nausea, the random crying in the bus. And I felt so stupid when I did. I was so hard on myself. I didn’t allow myself to break down, which only made the breakdown worse.

If I had a friend who went through a breakup like this I would never call their feelings stupid. I would tell them it’s ok, you’ll find someone else, you’re a good and kind person. I love you and you’ll meet someone else who does, or you’ll learn how to love yourself. Instead what I told myself was the most vile stuff ever: think ‘I’m not worthy of love’x10. That is the only thing you’re not allowed to do to yourself right now. Just be the kind friend you need and who you would be if this was happening to someone else. You can feel whatever you feel, but please be patient and kind with yourself.

it aint done got dont have no expiration date

You can't run from your problems forever. Life isn't good or bad. It's life. That image is some seriously bad advice. A little accountability goes a long way. A little self love goes a long way.

I believe in you.

If you want actionable advice, focus any free time you have on keeping your kitchen clean and your house tidy.

Just my personal experience and point of view: After my first break up I was suffering so much I thought I would die, 10 years later I see it as a blessing, I would be a very sad person if I still in that kind of relationship. I wish I could had suffered less by that time, so I wish the same for you. Believe it or not: what you are feeling now is just made by your thoughts, you will see things in a different way and you will look at your past self and whish you had suffered less. I guess knowledge and experience are the key. Study more and live more, I would say, the more you know, the more your perspective will change. I fell that suffering is created by our brain, that's why it's so difficult for me to understand how a person that lose house and family in Ukraine can still smile and have hope, and sometimes I feel so miserable just because of my professional frustration. Hope this helps. First time in a year I am typing here to share a comment. We all here are trying to help you and we care about you :)

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Yeah it does: death, it’s an abrupt MF’er

Dunno what it says about me that I didn't notice the NEVER part until last.

The next day is a night's sleep away. The pain will pass.

Couldn’t… and I’m not afraid to admit I failed. Meant the world to me. Couldn’t even convince her of as much. NGL! Made me question my very self. Still working through these new demons(doubts). Everyone has their own time, best support is patience and understanding.

I was in uni with a 64 year old retired dentist. He became a dentist because it's what his parents wanted, but always wanted to be an electrical engineer.

He came to class in his Porsche or his Maserati. Fucker.

Yeah no.

It's never too late to go back to school and get that degree. Hell it took me almost 10 years to get my associate's and only 3 more to finish my bachelor's. Was never really focused until I was. I'll be working towards a masters soon starting at the age of 34 most likely.

Hey man.... it's about the message alright!

How about a whole hard week

The loneliness afterward is the toughest part. But it goes away i promise. Every day you wake up youre anoher day closer to being comfortable in your own company. Bond with yourself and find new hobbies with yourself. Youre dating you now, take care of yourself. Once you get past this you’ll be stronger than ever. This is an opportunity to find a better version of yourself and live on a new timeline of life. Its a pivot of change

I needed this. I should have gone to university in 2007 but took a year to work and save some money, then 2008 happened and I hadn't really managed to save much anyway. I started working in 2007 and never had the finances to go, and had no support from my family. In the UK there are student loans but loads of my friends were waiting months and months for their loans, and I simply couldn't afford it under those conditions. Now I'm in my mid 30s and I'm finally looking at going to uni to study something completely different from what I'd wanted to study back then. I'm a completely different person now, and finally medicated fea neurological condition that affects my ability to learn and work, and I'm feeling really positive about it, even if I know I'm technically old enough to be the parent of some of my likely classmates

the x factors ‽

Like that half a gallon of milk staring at me when I look inside my fridge.

Went back to repost this 8 times a day since it was first posted 8 years ago. You run your race; repost for infinite karma dont have an expiration date

I had that same initial thought. Like. How the fuck we know? 🤔

Guess it makes sense, but we'll never know what the others were thinking...