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FoodAndCatSubs t1_j9da2a0 wrote

My buddy Nick committed suicide in 2005.

My mom had a best friend growing up in Canoga Park who had committed suicide in her car by pulling over and swallowing a bottle of sleeping pills. When Breaking Bad came out, my mom noticed Bryan Cranston on tv. She tells me she went to high school with him, but they did not know each other at the time, but coincidentally Bryan had a crush on her best friend.

Several years back, Bryan Cranston wrote in a memoir about a girl he liked in Canoga Park- my mom’s best friend. He wrote that she had died from a car accident when in reality she committed suicide. My mom has wanted to find a way to connect with Bryan to explain what really happened to her if he doesn’t know already. Pretty sad stuff.

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Otisandmarlena t1_j9d897s wrote

It's one of the most miserable things to go through, and there's really no way around grief-you just have to go through it. The truth of it is that this is your FREEDOM that's come for you, only you don't want it right now. But you will someday, and it will be amazing when that mental switch happens. I promise, one day you'll be back to being fabulous, single you. I recall going through a horrible break up and feeling sick and miserable for months. Now, looking back to nearly 30 years ago, I have some of the most soft and bittersweet memories of that time, of who I was, and of what I went through. Some day, you will as well. Be gentle with yourself, grieve well, and when you're able to, allow yourself to be distracted from the sadness.

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momo516 t1_j9d7gth wrote

When I go through hard times I use the saying “three months from now this will all be different”. Because it will be. And because that’s a manageable amount of time. Sometimes I try to imagine what will be different, other times just know that it will be when I get there. That helps me a lot. It’s a way of saying it’s completely fine to be sad and heartbroken right now, but also know there is an end point in sight and not feel overwhelmed by it. It’s also a way to focus on small goals to make sure things will be different in 3 months. And then 3 months from now, it’s important to take stock of where you are and recognize how things have changed in those 90 days.

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