Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated

Jones-bones-boots t1_j9cgbas wrote

You probably are feeling that you should have a goal instead of actually wanting one. We usually strive for goals so that we feel success. Nobody is more successful in life than one who is grateful and happy.

Maybe you should just take up a new sport or interest. You may just be surprised where that takes you.

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Fun_in_Space t1_j9ccehl wrote

It's more than "a couple hundred bucks" per MONTH for health insurance. Try $456.00 per month. You are guessing that I have much more money than I do. I AM TRYING to find a job I can live on, without success.

NO, I can't figure out how to find a therapist that specializes in ADHD. I tried. I had to choose from among a short list of in-network providers and none of them did. I don't quality for social services.

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user_dan t1_j9camcl wrote

You overcame "adversity" with no people, no rule support, no drawing on past experience and no luck.

"adversity" is external. We don't choose what adversity brings or when adversity shows up. If you don't have a repeatable process to address it, adversity will roll over you.

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SecretRecipe t1_j9c6rrq wrote

I personally approach it as a hierarchy.

  1. Get structured. Without structure in your life all subsequent steps are going to fail. Set yourself a bed time, set a wake up time, block off time to do your chores each week, block off time to exercise etc... The more structure you can bake into your life the easier the subsequent steps will be.
  2. Get Healthy. It's hard to focus or be motivated when you feel like crap and it doesn't take anything super extreme to feel far better. Get a nutrition plan together, do meal prep on Sundays, Focus on 50% fruit and veg, 40% Leanish protein and 10% grain / starch and stay hydrated. Track what you consume in a tracker (myfitnesspal for example) to make sure you're reasonably within your needs. Cut out the alcohol, smoking or anything like that and get 45 minutes of exercise 4-5 times a week, even if it's just a brisk walk around the block. Get enough sleep and boom, you'll feel great and your stress levels will drop
  3. Figure out your plan with your goal in mind. I can't really give any specific advice here because I know nothing about you but once you've set a good personal foundation for structure and health it's going to be a lot easier to execute on your plan to bring financial / career / social / personal success.
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