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Neither_Suspect2661 t1_j9049f6 wrote

Reply to [Text] I need to find a higher paying job, but self doubt makes me feel like I can’t handle any job by thequeasydream

You just haven't found your strength in your work ethic. And yes I said "just". Everyone cannot perform every job that everyone else does. I prefer being a team member. However, everywhere I've worked, I've been promoted to lead or supervisor. I do not enjoy the responsibility, yet I'm fully capable more qualified than some of those who actually want the position. I only get those positions because of how meticulous I am, my ability to multi-task, the ability to work under pressure, and delegate as well as being a team player. I just want to blend in. My work ethic is because I have extreme anxiety from things not being done correctly. So I counter it by fixing problems I see instead of complaint to my superior, knowing they will do nothing about it or mess it up even more. These problems are usually things that effect my work. So I have to fix someone else's mess in order to effectively do my own work. To management, it comes across as initiative. Its really my anxiety. Which I have panic attacks if my anxiety isn't alleviated.

What I'm saying is, find your strength then go from there. I understand needing higher pay. But if you get somewhere that you Excel in for least desired pay, you'll stand a greater chance of promotion/ raise to get the income you're searching for.

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One-Mind4814 t1_j903fuq wrote

Reply to comment by AmargithHuld in [Image] 🎯 by mantasmark

Sometimes it’s better to keep your goals to yourself. I hate when people tell me I can’t do something when I know I can and have proven many people wrong. Don’t even bother wasting the energy telling people your goals unless you know they are supportive. Although sometimes you kind of have no choice

Here’s an example: I was waiting for an interview for a grad school program. They had students out in the lobby talking to us, answering our questions, telling us about the program etc. I would have to be moving to a different state and was a single mother. Keep in mind I had been planning this for years. I was told by one of the students (who herself just had a baby) that I wouldn’t be able to do the program without family support (for my daughter). Which I thought was pretty funny considering I had raised my daughter all by myself for 11 years at that point. Long story short I got accepted into the program and gasp actually did it all by myself like I had been all along. Graduated and now work in the field. It’s still irks me though, lol. She wasn’t the first and won’t be the last unfortunately

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Fuzzy_Logic_4_Life t1_j9031ok wrote

Reply to comment by ValyrianJedi in [Image] 🎯 by mantasmark

I was going to say the same thing, people’s opinions of you is a majority of the job of being a leader. But then again good leaders own up to their mistakes.

So ya, let them watch you fall, and then let them watch you get back up and try again.

That is leadership, and people’s opinions matter.

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poopybadoopy t1_j8zzw9q wrote

Reply to [Text] How do you fix your life in your 30s after wasting about 8 years unemployed and living with family by sleeplessbearr

I can’t even read this.

Based on the post title alone? Fix your attitude then it’s one day at a time.

Self-accountability is a tough pill to swallow. It requires acknowledging and accepting your mistakes, what you could have done different, and doing different tomorrow. And the next day and the next day.

Cry and get angry not with others but with yourself. Then forgive yourself and be the change you want to see. Don’t expect others to be the change you want.

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WatercressTop2942 t1_j8zyljk wrote

Reply to [Text] I need to find a higher paying job, but self doubt makes me feel like I can’t handle any job by thequeasydream

It sounds like you might be suited to something more analytical and less fast paced! Like less customer service oriented and more project oriented. I’m not sure where your interests or experience lie but maybe look into accounting, finance, business operations. You might not make as much as a waitress in the first year, but earnings potential after a few years is much higher!

Also, if it makes you feel any better, I have friends who’ve been in the restaurant industry for years and all of them say being a hostess is by far the hardest gig!

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Environmental_Fig942 t1_j8zygsz wrote

Reply to [Text] I need to find a higher paying job, but self doubt makes me feel like I can’t handle any job by thequeasydream

LordTindale has an awesome answer.

The other things to keep in mind are that we all have different processing speeds as well, so just because someone is smart does not mean they process quickly, and vice versa. We’re all on a spectrum for everything, so work out where you’re good, where you’re not so you can practise, and everything else is out of your control so don’t sweat it.

Finally, I’m not saying that you have this, but sometimes people with ADHD freeze in situations like you listed above; it’s too chaotic; having too many choices to make, etc etc. Once again it doesn’t mean you have it, but it might be worth researching and mulling over (and this can be over weeks, months or even years.) If you feel you might have it, or you’re not sure then have a chat with your GP or a Clinical Psychologist or Psychiatrist (Paediatricians treat under 16 years old, Psychiatrists treat everybody else.) But keep in mind that not everybody with ADHD needs treatment.

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