Forget the past, learn from it. Use it as motivation. Don't worry about the future. Focus on the now and the present. Take it one day at a time. Think positive. Be positive. Figure out what you want to do that you love. Won't happen over night. Don't do any drugs or alcohol. Focus on yourself and self happiness.

MARGRET THATCHER

"And sin, young man, is when you treat people as things. Including yourself. That's what sin is." -Granny Weatherwax, Carpe Jugulum

So, not sure what kind of hate I may get for recommending this…but a mushroom trip done with a therapist friend of mine just changed my life. This happened around New Years. Spent a decade isolating, depressed and anxious. Grinding gears at a dead end job. All that negative bullshit has been unraveling since that New Years trip. I had done counseling for years with a few therapists and little success. If not this, maybe just explore antidepressants. They can certainly get you out of a funk if you find one that works well for you.

DM me! I’ll give you my suggestion too

A commercial driver’s license. Let’s you drive truck. Great job with some freedom too. LTL is less than truckload. Basically like delivering for UPS but pallets to businesses. Shorter driving areas and home every night.

I agree with the sentiments about every day is day one. My husband retrained at age 38 to become a carpenter; We left Southafrica being able to pay off our debts there and that’s pretty much it because the industry my husband was in collapsed and they (and many others) lost their businesses as the industry contracted. I was able to get a job pretty quickly (I’m in IT), he started his apprenticeship the day we got here as he organized it in advance and today 14 years later he’s working on his own and loving it.

Keep in mind when you apprentice you are working and getting paid pretty much the entire time; you do have some periods where you go to school, but other than that you’re working over 90% of the time and getting paid… And over those years you’re getting raises as your experience goes up.

My husband was a shoe designer and manufacturer, which is kind of niche and if you go it yourself requires a lot of capital… he was looking for something different that was not in an office (which would have killed him), and some thing that people need because after being in fashion for so many years he wasn’t about to go into business doing something where people didn’t have a basic need for it!!!

He absolutely could not be happier (or busier) even when he’s working out in the rain or the snow which is what all of his South African relatives seem to ask him about how can he stand it 😂

Good luck! You can do it :-)

I wish Margaret Thatcher was fictional

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Love this quote. So much, it made me read the book, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. He never actually said that, that quote was never written by him. The writers and directors of the film did, not him.

Literally the first thing I noticed too, lol

Also, they should have kept the movie version of Eowyn's "I am no man" quote. It's like the pinnacle of all of these quotes.

Really highlights how weak of a character Rey was, lol.

One step at a time

It isnt my business until they make it my business and I gotto waste energy dealing with that, then getting back on track after being massively gutpunched and derailed.

That’s the part I avoid, really.

Telling a child not to be a child isn't going to do anything tho, and I think you're comment actually is the most likely to make someone make a realization, not a good one, but hey, being infamous isn't the worst thing in the world. You'll be remembered far beyond anyone else, and for some people that's more valuable than anything else. If that's all that man wants is some validation, there's tons of awful ways to get it. If he's fucked, he might aswell go out with a bang right? (I am self inserting myself as this man and projecting as I'm in a similar position) and hey if this is what y'all are telling me to do, because I am in fact fucked, I might aswell have SOME fun, right? And don't worry, no one is innocent in this scenario 😉

Well it obviously is. It's just not something that you ask about directly.

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Only with her permission of course.

What is a CDI and what is LTL? Thank you for sharing.

You can work, be successful and still live with your parents. Outside of the west, this is a pretty standard thing. Culturally white families hating their kids for seemingly no reason Is so wierd to me. The American dream is dead, y'all could have stopped this bootstrap talk 80 years ago.

There's a concept that floats around called the have-to/want-to. The premise is that for a majority of people, they will have to do both of those things. If you do what you want to when you're young, you'll end up doing what you have to when you're old, and vice versa. Sounds to me like you've spent a fair bit of your life doing what you want to.

You have to get a job, any job. If you hate it, stick with it while you search for something hopefully better.

If you find something you enjoy well enough great, but you need to start being self sufficient.

One foot in front of the other.

I love this comment, alot of the other ones were unnecessarily harsh, maybe that guy needs to hear it that hardness, but I digress. I do have a question, because this does seem like the obvious answer, but so many people including me don't ever take it .. why do you think that is?

I would assume bad parenting, mental or physical disabilities, serves trauma in early upbringing etc. All play a part in someone's downfall/bad decision making but I also agree that something else is at play. It's complacency. And to some degree that's on the parents still, right? If my mom forced me to get a job, go back to school or I'm going homeless... Guess I'm getting my life together, most people I know had that forced upon them at some point during 14-21. Anyone in my shoes or the OP's just didn't.. The "free range" style of parenting creates people like me that are literally wired to respond to the world in a very specific way I'm not so sure can be unlearned without intensive therapy and years of systematic planning.... A single individual trying to fix their life is doomed to some degree in this scenario. At this point, parents gotta die, I gotta get cancer, or some insane life event has to take place for change to happen, which sucks but hopefully the reality check isn't that bad, but hey that's life, it sucks and then we die 😂