Make goals then figure out the steps to get there.

Probably helps the artificial foot fit into the shoe better. Also it's normal and whimsical at the same time, which is what a one-legged girl in two cute sneakers wants.

I just want to know why shes wearing a sock.... To prevent blisters? Control sweating?

All good. I am not here for the money. ;)

You can’t find a job in anything you went to school for?

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how often do you beat yo meat?

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they say it gets you motivated when you don't ever

For me it was community college… got a useless art degree, but tons of confidence and opportunities to make friends. It changed my mindset. I move out of my parents house a year later to live with 3 people I barely knew, got a part time job and a girlfriend… 4 years later I moved to CA… two years later, I started working the best job I’ve ever had…. And I’m still changing my life, everyday. THIS YEAR, I have everything I need to join the Union and will. Ironically the thing holding me back the most right now is the student loans I HAD to take n order to get my life on track.

Love this anyone can do anything if they set their mind to it

Unfortunately the first step is the hardest but you sound like a mindful and self aware guy. Slow and steady improvements that are sustainable should be your target. It sounds like you have a fairly complicated combination of problems that you really need to lay out bare before you can set out a plan. A few areas that need your attention in my view:

1. Alcohol / drugs - priority 1 is to pull the plug on the booze and drugs. You need to keep a clear head and remain as clean as possible. This will help you focus and ensure you will have more energy to invest on things you care about.

2. Sleep patterns and routine - set a bedtime and start your day when other people that you want to interact with start their day. You should try this for at least a month and be really strict with yourself on routine. Fine tune and make sure you get enough sleep - again you will boost your energy levels, you’ll be more alert and you’ll be able to function better overall.

3. Gaming - its good to do a bit of gaming I find its nice to decompress - just have a set time for it and use it as a reward. If you have other more important shit to do then make sure you don’t start gaming prematurely or for too long.

4. Vocation - Find a job you enjoy doing and stick to it. There is no job that is perfect out there - every single industry and position has some downsides. You have to power through and not give up. I believe part of your issue is that you’re basically completely exhausted because you haven’t rested your body and mind. Doing that one day is bad. Being exhausted for a number of months let alone years starts to fuck with you in a massive way. Definitely stick to your exercise routine thats also important.

5. Social circle - Find a productive and social hobby - join a club and meet some new people. Again, like minded people that you can interact with whilst doing your new found hobby. My one was road cycling - it helped clear my mind and I got the fresh air I needed. Met some great people through that.

One day at a time - chip at it slowly. Never give up. You’re still a very young man and have your life ahead of you! Best of luck I hope some of this stuff is practical.

Your general practitioner can orient you - or you can call your insurance provider and see if they can help. Since ADHD sometimes requires medication, you will need a psychiatrist (or other medical doctor) to prescribe, but if you go the therapist route, they’ll usually work with one. Question is whether behavior modification or drugs will work better for you. If you have a general doctor, it might be easiest to start there. As a side note - there is a lot of misdiagnosis in depression and ADHD. And don’t feel bad about “wasting your life” - most of us don’t get it sorted out until later and the myriad of experiences lends itself to a creative and fulfilling career(s).

I started in media in my 20s (like you, all over the place, no focus, no real “job”), went back to school got a BA and a law degree in my late 30s (we’re good at hyper focus when we enjoy what we’re doing), and built a tech company - and was awarded patents - in my late 40s (we love a challenge for the mind too).

But don’t stress where you are now - get your ADHD under control - or recognize you have it and knock some bodies down with it, and have multitudes of careers! - and enjoy your journey!!

See you think gaming is your problem but I want to like stream my gaming and connect with people for my job…it sounds fucked and really unrealistic but it’s the only thing I enjoy anymore. Ppl have really messed me up so it’s just how I cope🫠

This is so foreign to my brain I can't even comprehend it

There are many skilled electricians that make upwards of $50 an hour. It's a great career choice especially if one likes solving problems and understanding systems and bettering the lives of others.

I will say that, if you can let go of the drugs, the military (non-combat roles) can be a game changer. You don’t have to do 20 years and a grunt to make some positive changes in your life. If you want direction, a decent paycheck, and some structure in life - that’s why I did it. Granted there’s a lot of suck but most people tend to do better afterwards than they were before.

This got too me, and I shoved IT too my daugher with an nerve damage inn her neck. IT struck a nerve in both of us

I have a friend who got burned out from coding. He got his electrician papers and started working at data centers because they need electricians on site for emergencies. Since few emergencies happen, he has 80% free time. You know what he does in His free time? Codes games. Funny guy, I tell ya.

That title has me thinking this was the title of my own biography book. Lol

And it was posted in r/getmotivated hence this comment.

This is inspiration porn. As a disabled person we hate that shit and using a child for it is gross.

DM me I’ll see what I can do

Essentially stating the difference between proactive people that make things happen, and passive people that wait for things to happen to them

You seem like a sad person.

Good advice. The trick is habit forming. I find myself doing this for 2 weeks and then dwell back to the comfortable

His personality type , similarly to mine feels that a job where your unappreciated isn't the move. Now I'm not saying be broke but there's ways to make money other than 9 to 5 . Ppl like him just need to sit down and hit the drawing board and find that " thing "