No advice, but any tips to make sure that I don’t become you in 11 years? What would you tell yourself if you had the chance?

"Alright r/ GetMotivated, what horrible thing did this guy do that I don't know about?"

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Sell all gaming gear and forget it existed.

I like your Dad's idea. Construction has a major labor shortage. Go learn a trade you are interested in. But at night, take some business classes at an accredited school. Start to plan for in 10 years to open your own business in the trade you learned. There are a lot of old construction subcontractor business owners with no next generation of leadership. The best path to wealth in America is small business ownership. You could be killing your late 40s and 50s.

Stop blaming everything and everyone else for your mistakes. Get a job and move out, you’re not a child anymore.

I would add to that, that even if you dont know what you want, you should build discipline and good character so when you figure what you want, you are ready to fly.

NAD, but sounds to me like you have ADHD not depression. Learn some coping skills from a behavior therapist, go on meds, or make a career out of whatever isn’t a “job” to you.

Bullshit he said this

Join the Army. Do a 3 year stint, get a free education, post 9-11 when you get out after 3 years. This will pay you to go to school and give you BAH for zip code your school is in.

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Try it out..

Congratulations! Keep up the good vibes!

My son was ADHD, non motivated, didn’t want to go to school, too many video games, no direction. He was in his early 30’s with no good future. He finally got sick of seeing his friends making good money, etc etc - he found a job that paid him to train while he studied for the national board (pressure vessel/boiler inspector) took him a year.

He’s now 37, makes great money, has a company car, bought a home and is doing great. He’s not perfect but my point is - your 30’s is the time to get your head out of your ass. You have nothing to be worried about - if you can find something that pays you while you train (I’d check into CO2 or boiler inspectors) you have plenty of time to turn things around, but do it now. You CAN.

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Well done fella !

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Well said.

Finding the stuff to enact the change.

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Awesome. You are the only who should control you not some chemicals.

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Happy for you!

You've got good hair; grow that shit out while you're still young! Eff the fade.

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Some are naturally pretty awful too. Give people the space to change and become a better version of themselves.

Others play an excellent game of appearing cool until their identity feels threatened by someone and their inner awfulness reaches the surface.

The people you meet, cool or not, are not the finished product cause there's no such thing, we're always changing, and it's especially hard to consciously change old ingrained patterns.

We're all shaped by our world into who we are, some get lucky, some not. If not, you can't count on anyone to change you for the better except you.

You need to accept that you are to blame for the choices you’ve made. It’ll be hard, but you aren’t blaming society, or circumstances. Once you can accept it, you can now start with the moving on phase; the rebuilding phase.

Let’s unfuck some fucks. First, you’ll have to stop comparing yourself to your peers. Live your life in your own lane.

Second, understand the difference between a job and a career. Let’s target a career now, not small jobs like djing at gyms. What career would I recommend for someone like you? Definitely not tech. However, I’d recommend something like recruiting. I know recruiters aren’t as much in demand as they were last year due to layoffs etc, however, there’ll still be a demand for them. You talk to people, set them up with jobs, and can also gamify the process, “how many candidates can I land this month? Can I beat my last record?”. Jobs where you can gamify objectives can play to your ADHD advantage. Similar careers include sales but it also comes with more stress.

Third, gamify your entire life. You are in a real world MMO and your skills are low. Grind out for a few levels, upgrade your gear.

Fourth, once you start making good money, for the love of fuck don’t spend it. Use it to make more money by investing. Invest in ETFs not individual stocks no matter what anyone tells you.

Fifth, go dark for a few months to complete your goals. You’re not on social media. You’re not hanging out with anyone else. You’re accomplishing your goals.

Incoherent thoughts but I am also really sleepy so gn

There's millions of kids. She's just some kid.