I'm older (62 m) and have been dealing with this since I was a teen, its brutal and gotten worse the older I got. I used to be able to do things by forcing myself, sheer determination. The older I got, the harder that got.

I'm at the point now where I can do like one thing a day, and I'm done. Being a parent while constantly exhausted was the worst.

So interesting to read all these comments and suggestions, gives me hope that perhaps I can be a bit more productive and less negative at the same time.

Wow. Hello brother from another mother, Lol.

No real advice. The struggle is real. I'm reading these comments and advice and its blowing my mind. Gives me some hope.

Good luck in your journey, I hope you find the relief that you so rightly deserve.

Has this ever worked before? Like, ever?

I'm going to be making $150k/year starting next week

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Awesome, this applies to all the shortsighted dopamine rushes so many people are addicted to. YOU hold they key my friend!

I look forward to the weekend, no work, no phone calls, and no people pestering me. I lack motivation, and suffer from severe mental illness.

Like Im not very religious but even in Bible there is part where it says that people shouldnt worry so much about following day and focus more on god and his rules (interpret god as whatever is important to you).

I have a great friend who's also a trained make up artist, and her mum used to dress the stars in movies in the '70s, she's been amazing. My employer was always like the big brother I never had but he seems to be struggling with it now. I really appreciate that, thankyou.

Yeah it's all about community, we're lost on our own, most of us anyway.

I have an idea of what I want, not so much how to get there. I've been making sculptures for the last 20 years, that's been my lifeblood. I feel deeply connected to the things I make, which helps, but it's not enough in the long run. It's human connection and partnership I need to find.

I'm similar, in some ways I'm very masculine, others quite femme, though it's my feminine side that's the hardest to express. I've been having my beard lasered off cause it's such a huge barrier to feeling like myself. Still very heavy stubble around my mouth and I hate it, makes me look like the thug I am definitely not. And that in turn seems to influence the kind of potential partners I attract.

While I generally suggest for everyone to embrace this mindset to remind themselves what they may be capable of, I likewise know the daftness in encouraging the impoverished to celebrate the rich.

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I've seen this illustration several times now, always think it's brilliant!

I accidentally misread the top as “Thought of the dog”. Good doggie.

That is very well said!

We never know the true impact of something—the butterfly effect can show itself years later

My nephew is a bomb disposal tech and recently he’s been really successful.

I’ve been jealous but i think you’re right, i need to just go in there and get my hands dirty

It is fucking difficult. You have to find out what makes you the happiest while dealing with losing a lot of your role models which tend to react disappointingly to all your endeavours.

First and foremost: the naysayers are wrong.

Do you have some supportive people around you? If you happen to need some, and are ok with that person being me, my DMs are open and you would be welcomed.

I've been so damn lucky to have had some supporting close friends who spent a whole lot of energy to cheer me up and reassure me. Now they're my dear family ♥

Some people have a very detailled plan about what will make them happy and what they'll need to do to get it. You don't seem to have that, I don't either, and tbh I think most people are in the same case... I just tried as much things as I could and kept what seemed to work best for me. I had some tries at being a guy, then a high femme phase, now I've stabilized a bit somewhere between butch and androgynous. It is ok to doubt yourself, admit than something was just a phase, and test weird stuff :)

People tend to react a bit weird to me because of my looks (tattoos, piercings, colorfull hair, etc) and because I'm a tad socially awkward but it's almost always a matter of first impressions rather than direct hostility. Often they're very confused about whether I'm a dude or a woman but it's been a constant during my whole life so I'm getting the hang of it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

edit: 'Cause if it becomes too easy/ Friend, you'll start to lose your punch

If I know exactly what I want out of life, that being to find someone, get married, have kids and be a better father to those kids than my dad was to me and my siblings, then obviously in this case, being single makes it quite difficult to work towards that goal in life. That's not too say I'm unhappy now, I feel like I'm doing quite well. But if in ten years time I'm no closer... Yeah, then it's a problem.

Lowering my expectations to "Ohh maybe I'll die alone" doesn't automatically bring happiness, just because that might become a reality.

In conclusion: Meme-philosophy sucks

You’re very welcome. Do let me know after you get done what you think about it. I’m trying to incorporate more of those positive intelligence concepts into my coaching programs.

Fantastic. I do enjoy reading these tour of books, so Thank you for the recommendation.

“You’re” not the one that’s jealous and hiding, it’s the judge & avoider inside of you that’s doing that. Check out the book “Positive Intelligence,” it’ll help you overcome things like this.

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It’s very easy for me to be jealous and hide from people I truly admire.

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Thank you 🥹

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