Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated

[deleted] t1_j8mm3t2 wrote

And if Plan Z fails, you’ve learned so much that you may want to think about teaching others before they retry your alphabet.

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NehEma t1_j8mlzjz wrote

The world tells you a lot through social conditioning. Most of the things that we often deem as "natural" or "evident" are social norms. Have you ever been told to "man up" or that something is "not lady-like"? That's the world telling you who you are (or what it thinks you should be).

There are a lots of reasons for not knowing who you are. Lacking similar people around you is one possible reason.

imho it's motivating because it gives you other options than the miserable life you might've been ascribed.

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SirVanyel t1_j8mloio wrote

Well, you're not gonna stop experiencing stuff, so why invite the misery of experiences you aren't currently having? That mental and emotional space could be better spent investing in yourself for the future you, a version of you that's better for relationships.

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thaddeus423 t1_j8mliys wrote

The world is going to demand and expect certain things from you.

Those things could differ depending on what sort of walk of life you’re on.

If you tend to wander aimlessly with no goals or are uncertain what you want to be in life (or vice versa) things will happen to you that you do not like, and things will happen to you that you do like. The same can be said for someone who has goals and doesn’t wander, but they might have a bit more identity figured out.

It’s up to you to sort through these things with your thoughts and your emotions and decide who you are or what type of person you’d like to be.

I think it’s motivating because a lot of us are lost.

A lot of us are just making it up as we go, trying to survive, seeing what sticks to the wall when we throw it, and doing whatever we can to make our weird little hearts happy in an otherwise short and unforgiving life.

If you don’t know who you are, life will show you.

And while incredibly terrifying, I’m enlightened.

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SirVanyel t1_j8ml85p wrote

Correct. You aren't able to control reality over the short term, but you can control how you react to it. It takes years, decades, to change your life, but you can change your reaction in weeks or months, and to be honest, removing that misery from your mental space will open up room for things that serve you better

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Thyandar t1_j8mj6sb wrote

What nonsense.

My expectation is to not be fired, If I'm fired,

If every day I expect to be fired then I am fired, then i'm happy that I was right?

I'm unhappy not because of the gulf of expectation but because of reality.

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