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HomoVulgaris t1_j8kh7w1 wrote

Reply to How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries

I feel like it's just always this way... with anyone that is successful. It's not a bug, it's a feature. I don't think you're broken like the way that you describe.

The key is to never let it go to "nothing". There's ALWAYS a negative consequence to shutting down. It doesn't come from outside you, it comes from within you.

If you let yourself have enough shitty days, then eventually you'll just become a shitty person. Don't take that first step. If you see goals that are unclear or timelines that are far into the future, then CLARIFY those goals. Pull those timelines back. So what if it's due in 4 months? Can you get it done by the end of the week? If you can, why wait? Just get it done!

Turn external deadlines into internal deadlines. Why should anything have to wait one second more than it has to? Complete assignments as you get them, not as their deadlines come up.

Turn external consequences into internal consequences. Look at your day. Evaluate how you did that day. What could be improved? Where are you struggling? Try to do better the next day.

Honestly, the anxiety has a purpose: getting you off your ass! If you had no anxiety, you would be like a capybara the whole day: just a big lazy baby. The point is that you're not just a chubby, lazy baby! You're a responsible adult, dammit. Even though there is always the temptation to just be a gentle soft chubby boy and sleep the day away, don't give in!

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GreenTheHero t1_j8kg5bn wrote

Reply to [Image] Potential without work, action is useless by crm_expert

You don't need daily practice to know a magnifying glass under the sun can start fires, this is public knowledge, who the fuck is practicing that.

Also, it's be much more efficient and reasonable to just use a lighter, alternatively

if you wanted to attempt to make this imagery work, starting a fire with wood rubbing would be extremely inefficient, however extremely practical in survival situations. Because it's inefficient, it takes practice to get good at it.

No need to thank me

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aTaxingSensation t1_j8k6sgb wrote

Reply to [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert

I think some of you are missing the point. Pushing that boulder does not look easy and simple; you have to really push yourself to make your dreams (in this case, expectations) into reality.

It is not easy to realize your expectations and that is why you need to work hard for it.

It is not about lowering your expectations at all.

Once you are able to realize your dreams (expectations), then you will feel happy. (i.e, passing a certification exam, building your social and professional network, meeting body fat percentage goals, or whatever your dreams may be).

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