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JCPRuckus t1_j8ihxz8 wrote

Reply to comment by daguil68367 in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert

That all depends on what you want to be motivated to do. Do you want to be motivated to try and change reality, even if you can't, or do you want to be motivated to find "happiness" (actually "lack of suffering", but we'll deal with the meme's language for now).

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JCPRuckus t1_j8ihemj wrote

Reply to comment by slotcargeek in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert

That's a simplification, because unsurprisingly, memes suck at philosophy. Buddhism would say that lowering your expectations to match reality "minimizes suffering", rather than "maximizes happiness". Because even if your reality is unpleasant, you no longer have the additional suffering of being disappointed that reality isn't matching your expectations.

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JCPRuckus t1_j8iggkt wrote

Reply to comment by BallBearingBill in [image] The happiness equation by crm_expert

I'd argue that in your example expectations are what is coloring each person's view of an identical reality. Things look good if reality is meeting or exceeding your expectations, and they look bad if it's failing to meet your expectations. Saying, "place your reality" is just a different way of saying "set your expectations" when you don't want to say the word "expectations" for some reason.

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Moon-spirited t1_j8ifz1y wrote

Reply to comment by Moon-spirited in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries

I also want to add that I get the dealing of fearing to fail/anxiety which makes you not want to start at all the project. The trick is to just start. Once you get deeper in the work, you’ll get more motivated to work on it because you’ll be able to see the finish line more clearly.

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Moon-spirited t1_j8ifnkn wrote

Reply to How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries

I also struggle with this, so I’m not sure I’m the best person to give advice, but try to set yourself smaller sets of goals. For example, if your boss gives you a project that’s due in a month, divide your project in smaller sets of tasks with your own deadlines to respect and set yourself (realistic) time during the day where you’ll complete those tasks. In the end, it’s really about learning how to be more disciplined

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phlegmatic_aversion t1_j8ifihk wrote

Reply to [Image] Potential without work, action is useless by crm_expert

This reminds me of a quote I read once that said something like "Luck is opportunity meets preparedness".

Everyone gets many opportunities in life, if you aren't prepared to take advantage of them, it results in nothing. Create your own luck; prepare to seize your opportunities.

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Bland-fantasie t1_j8iemoz wrote

Reply to comment by Aquamarooned in [Image] Potential without work, action is useless by crm_expert

Oh thanks. Well then I’ll say sarcastically that this is a great life lesson/metaphor:

-No lens in the magnifying glass, so the tool is “broken.” Light isn’t refracted either; there is actually no lens.

-Doesn’t require practice to do it if you see or hear about it once.

-Extremely minimal effort to light the fire if you have a functioning version of this tool.

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