Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hdgcr wrote
Reply to comment by trusty20 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
Just started reading it, it's spot on so far. Thank you for the recommendation!
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hde6o wrote
Reply to comment by No_Vacation3909 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Exhaustion is a great way of describing it - I feel that too. I feel a great need to just rest, to just be. I think I am resentful about having to do anything at all at the moment.
The burning building is a great analogy! For me it's always been scrambling up a cliff face, and I can't stop else I'll fall back down into what I came from.
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hd9yp wrote
Reply to comment by zaphod_pebblebrox in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
Thank you for your lovely comment. I'm buying a house and starting a grad programme at the moment so I've put therapy on hold until the house at least is sorted. But agreed, it absolutely is a utility!
Teastainedeye t1_j8hd87z wrote
Reply to comment by Thadigan in [image]Don't give up! by Yekduitin
People die in the middle of literally everything, including success
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hd6wu wrote
Reply to comment by Clever_Mercury in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
This is great and reminds me a lot of my former therapist's reminders to "get curious" about my experience rather than spinning off into that anxiety. Thank you.
arox1 t1_j8hd41e wrote
Reply to comment by MonkeyBred in [Image] You can't go back and change the beginning.. by amin9129
At some point you dont have a future anymore
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soiramio3000 t1_j8hczi7 wrote
that's not always true.
if you are bad at what you are doing you can practice for years and still fail to improve.
I know from personal experience.
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EDIT:to clarify:I am mostly talking about competitive pokemon. I just can't improve on that since there aren't any STRAIGHTFORWARD videos and articles on the internet on team building.(except from that video grady cool made for sticky web teams, that was the one and only straightforward video I have ever watched).
JaySocials671 t1_j8hczar wrote
Reply to comment by RiotingMoon in [IMAGE] Be careful what you feed… by Rocky9711
Who said it
Sprinkle_Puff t1_j8hcx5d wrote
Reply to [image] Keep going. by ImOkNotANoob
Maybe if Covid never happened. But cest la vie.
soiramio3000 t1_j8hcn2s wrote
Reply to [image]Don't give up! by Yekduitin
this post is bullshitical nonsense.
that's not how things work at all.
Anomalous6 t1_j8hcenj wrote
Reply to comment by Olianne in [image] by Royal_Tumbleweed_910
Rupi really dropped the ball here.
kamilman t1_j8hby0n wrote
Reply to comment by GrandpaPickleRick in [Image] Be the reason someone feels welcomed, seen, heard, valued, and loved. by sylsau
Why can't I believe it, deep down?
Alarming-Buffalo8295 t1_j8hbnyc wrote
Reply to [image] believe in you. by Royal_Tumbleweed_910
Me before I went homeless for two weeks and not worrying about it lol
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hbd0f wrote
Reply to comment by tele68 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
It can't be fought, I don't think! Sorry you're going through it.
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hbbxo wrote
Reply to comment by happyele in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
Thank you for the suggestion. I don't have the capacity to do further therapy right now, but have started reading "The Now Habit" as suggested by another poster, it takes a CBT approach.
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hb9pv wrote
Reply to comment by kiffiekat in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
This is exactly it. Exactly.
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hb6xs wrote
Reply to comment by lkayman30 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
I'm so sorry, it feels awful, doesn't it? Especially that bit where everyone thinks you're functioning really well, but you know you're not.
I'm glad you have found a way to cope in the meantime, but wishing you peace.
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hb4r9 wrote
Reply to comment by karanarak09 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
Thank you for reminding me of this! I get very impatient and think I "should" know how to do this now I've had therapy, but you're absolutely right about the fear response.
FieryHammer t1_j8haur3 wrote
Reply to [image]Don't give up! by Yekduitin
Or do you remember how as a kid, other kids literally dragged you back on races so they can get in front of you while you may fall and finish last? Yeah, it could be that too.
pm_me_your_amphibian t1_j8hac3v wrote
Reply to [image] Keep going. by ImOkNotANoob
Mmmmm. 5-year-ago me would have opinions I guess.
rehab_VET t1_j8h9yum wrote
Annnnnnnd I’ll go do another set of weights . Thank you good person of the internets
N3oxity t1_j8h96a2 wrote
This is good. Unless you really fucked upped.
killemslowly t1_j8h8yr6 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in [image] Keep going. by ImOkNotANoob
Sounds familiar
ElegantCherries OP t1_j8hdvrt wrote
Reply to comment by RemoteMammoth6 in How do you get yourself motivated when you've always been driven by threat/anxiety/trauma? [Discussion] by ElegantCherries
I've wondered sometimes if I had ADHD but it just doesn't fit for me.
I think it's trauma-based executive dysfunction. In survival mode I work very well, I just don't know how to function outside of it yet.