Same. It's been a lifelong mystery that I mostly dealt with by not fighting it too hard.
But what you sacrifice is things like writing a book or other solo creative situation.

They are far down because you can't start a family if you can't feed your kids...

Try raising a family and chasing your dreams without food. Difficult.

I'd put the family that raised you before everything else, as that would play the largest part in developing a healthy person.

It's not a list of important to unimportant.

It's saying if you don't have what's on the left, it's very difficult to get the next one.

You can't start a family without being able to feed your kids (usually via money obtained by working)

I cannot fucking believe someone, unironically, posted the ‘two wolves’ thing as inspiration. Misattributed, at that.

Leave this nonsense to the evangelicals that fabricated it.

Because you'd be pretty shit at starting a family if you can't feed your kids.

Back in caveman times, replace work for hunting and shelter building, and money with the thing you hunted and shelter you built.

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That is the most wonderful blessing one can have in their life

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Want to paste this in my room

Looking at perspective of "raising your own family".

Yeah, I can see it. How are you paying for child support.

If it's talking about "family that raised you", it could be wedged between work and money.

Do you feel like all fiction is inherently duplicitous, just to a greater or lesser degree? It's all completely fake, of course. But I think that a work of fiction that claims to be a true story is not "more fake", but fake in a different way (vs a work of fiction that is up-front about being purely imaginary.)

Like, if James Cameron claimed that Titanic was based on the true romantic story of two real passengers on the Titanic, that's clearly not the same thing as making up a story about two fictional people on the Titanic.

I mean, even in a hunter gatherer society, work just means a different kind of work and money is just... food and shit I guess lmao

Although, if I were to guess it's coz before starting a family, you do kind of want to be financially stable first. It's probably not thought out all too much and is just there for the sake of something filling out the space lmao

Looking at it from another perspective.

What if "Family" is starting your own, not "family that raised you".

I would NOT want to raise a kid being stressed by money being tight. Like you said, there's poor families that are happy, and rich families that are not.

But not having that money to pay for opportunities/experiences and having them miss out would leave a bad aftertaste if they could not sign up for something like clubs/things they enjoyed. I.e sports.

Like, not being stingy with money but not over spending either. But at least a bottomline would be: at least 1/8th of monthly earnings after tax deduction being used as "disposable" would be a good measure for family spending.

I think it's all relative. Family can't hurt you like work can either. There's no safer option, it just depends on your own preference really.

I think you're focussing on exactly the right thing.

For example:

In "the Boy Who Cried Wolf" a young boy enjoys yelling “wolf” and laughing as the adults in his village run around in a panic. But one day, he sees an actual wolf, and cries out “wolf” to try and get someone to save him. But no one comes because noone believes him anymore.

Instead of just taking the lesson ("don't lie"), we should be putting all of our efforts into:

Who is this boy? Where did he come from? What type of wolf was it? Was it even an unfriendly wolf? When did this story take place? How old was the boy? Where were his parents? Why was there a wolf? Why was there a boy? What were his/her pronouns? What did his diet consist of? Did the boy have 2 wolves inside him too? Did 1 wolf escape? Was this why he cried wolf so much?

Conclusion: Only after getting the crucial context should we allow ourselves to take lessons from parables to heart.

>This is a terrible design, who ranked family and dreams so much further back and placed priority on money and being a slave to work?? Maybe I just don't get it.

The idea is you need what's on the left to succeed at what's on the right. It's not about what you consider important, it's more order of events. So you need health to be able to even be good at your job, you need to be good at your job to make money, you need money to support and let your family grow, and you need a supportive family to actualize your dreams. It's not an alternative Maslow's Hierarchy of needs.

So there is something to be said about family being so far to the right, but anyone who has a family and does not have money will know that in real life it does cause lots of stress. There are plenty of happy poor families and unhappy rich ones so it's not a perfect analogue, but there's at least a decent nugget of truth there that anyone who has tried to find childcare can support.

Dreams is a little weirder because you don't need family per se to fulfill your dreams, but it definitely helps to have health and money (which implies job). If you called family like, "responsibilities to others" it would probably be a good graphic because you need to have a handle on your responsibilities to fully dedicate yourself to your dreams. But in lieu of that wordiness and awkward turn of phrase, family is a decent shorthand for people we have a responsibility to.

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They put a lot of work into it and the host has a very kind, humble and genuine soul. It's also free on all the major podcast apps, I've been listening to it for years now and only just recently became a patreon member.

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I truly wish more people could listen and get as much out of it as I have.

Not only does this do a terrible job conveying anything, what can be made of it is even worse.

but with zero money, your health will eventually go negative

No, it's reality. "Do whatever you want" is terrible advice. Hard stop. It's right up there with "positive vibes only" and "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". That's not how people grow or overcome anything.

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1 dream is 10001 and that's seems low if i already have 10000

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