Thank you!

Thank you so much, I tried to keep my job but unfortunately since it was corporate there was nothing they could do as their rules were set in stone and HR was not able to budge and put me on a temporary leave. Things are difficult but I know it’ll come back around.

I actually started a group for other people in my state who have been affected by the dept of community affairs practices, I’m hoping we can come together and find some type of support from the state or federal government in the future to rectify this situation. They won’t listen to one person but they can’t ignore 100! Hopefully I can help other this way bc what they’ve done is wrong.

Thank you so much! It is definitely difficult but I’m pushing though as best I can. Being a mom is the hardest job ever, not only are we responsible for their livelihood and growth but there is a new level nor responsibility on us to be good role models. Even when sometimes you just wanna get in a car and drive to the beach, park and live in a hut for a while. We have to do better for them, it is a lot! 😂

Correction - You work hard to make things easier.

Not "work hard so you have an excuse to be lazy." You have every right to relax whenever you want, given that doing so won't make things more difficult later on.

I am so sorry for your losses. Things can be so difficult at times and in reality there is little to no assistance. Hugs 🤗

Why would you always want 'more'?

Bad day? Don’t let a bad year distract you

Lol my investing graphs are the exact opposite: “Don’t let a good day, distract you from all the losses you’ve made”

Man I rest so hard it's ridiculous

This one can be pretty tricky, especially since working harder now can mean resting harder later. Not to mention nobody's priorities are identical... I spent most of my 20s working insanely hard. Barely had a single week between 22 and 29 that was less than 70 hours, and there were a couple of years in there where 90-100 hour weeks were the norm. But doing that when I was able to made it where now in my 30s I'm able to get a whole lot more while still resting and spending time with friends and family. And trading a significantly rougher time in my 20s for a significantly better 30s, 40s, 50s and on is a trade I'd make every time.

The repeated surgeries for her stage image for a start, that's not something I would call a role model for young girls. She also has a problem with being humble (for instance, playing concerts for small audiences at small venues) - which worked out for her, but isn't something everyone could emulate. But: we're all human, and on balance she's a hell of a lot better person than most of us.

Yo but I really can't rest harder than dead tbh

You’re doing amazing love!! I think you’re trying your hardest and there is hope for you and your kids. Not many could handle the circumstances you’re in. Moms deal with so much!! You’re amazing!! your children are watching and are so thankful and proud to have you as a mom!

You win when you try on the bad days

Always love yours

Consistency wins everytime

Enjoy life before work

I feel so bad for you. I was once homeless (living in a scary motel with my infant daughter). The past few years have been awful. Lost my mil, 21 yo son and mom all within 18 months. Some days it is difficult to breathe. Hang in there and have faith.

My son in law got rejected by every medical school after he got his bachelors degree. He then got into a masters program at Boston University. Their program is supposed to help you get into medical school. He got into Drexel (Philadelphia) and is now in his first year of residency to become an ER physician. Don’t give up if this is what you really want.

I am 57 and have no problem dying any day. It’s been a roller coaster ride but I have achieved everything I hoped for. I still work part time and have a lot of hobbies, just no goals.

If you choose it, yes

Real talk. There's no shame in seeking professional psychotherapy. Self-help sounds nice, but sometimes we can't improve on our own. Just like going to a doctor to heal your body, sometimes you need to go to a therapist to heal your mind. You aren't alone, and you don't need to get through it alone.

What's cheesy about it?

Even if it’s something I’m excited about, I procrastinate out of fear. Usually, that I’m gonna do a shit job, so I just don’t… I also have ADHD..

What a sick system you are having to deal with. Keep reminding yourself it is NOT YOU. It is a horrible, abusive system that 1) you couldn't get paid to take care of your sick/dying spouse and 2) now you are penalized because criminals stole funding that should be helping you and your kids.

You may be able to (someday) help other folks also struggling because of our broken, disgraceful systems. But you are not the failure here!

Also keep tapping in to feelings of gratitude for the things that are going well. Every day. Every "little" thing. It helps our energy. Other good things happen, just from remembering to feel gratitude. (In my experience)