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zukrayz t1_j6zrqkg wrote

Reply to How to trust the process? [Discussion] by Less-Communication97

So by the the language you use I think I know what the problem is because I had/have the same one. You're living your life for other people and not yourself, you want to get a girlfriend so you're doing the things that people tell you you need to do to get one. But that choice isn't for you it's for them, it's changing yourself into someone you think others will like. But that's not the answer, you're putting the responsibility of your happiness onto other people and as you've seen few will take on that responsibility. The deeper implications of this are that you right now aren't good enough, aren't attractive enough, not smart enough etc. How do you expect to make positive changes when you don't trust the person making the decisions? You need to take responsibility for your happiness yourself. No one will ever care about your happiness as much as you will because you are with yourself every second of every day. So you need to look deep inside and find out what your values are, what is important to you, what makes you happy, and seek out opportunities to grow in those areas. Once you grow in those areas you'll find others who think and feel the same way about stuff, this will lead to friends and partners. And those relationships will be all the more meaningful because these things are a part of YOU, they like you for YOU, which is what we all want. So don't worry about a partner right now they won't fix your problems, that's another deflection of responsibility. Funnily enough the path to change is accepting who you are and your current situation, and taking personal responsibility for it. It's not resigning yourself to always being the same person, it's giving yourself the time and space to try things out and make mistakes and have that be okay. So take care of yourself because self care is self love. Start with the objectively important things if you're looking for a place to start, hygiene is important, physical fitness is important, mental health is important. Then work on finding yourself, find out who that person is and love that person. When you're living the life you have chosen others will see that and respect it, that's what will get you a partner. But more importantly, it'll give you the life you've always wanted

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YamComfortable8500 t1_j6zqn4z wrote

Reply to [Image] Why not? by conversingwithoceans

I always criticized people who trivialized any mental condition, and today, I'm living what I never imagined. it's crippling to feel out of your own life, the only tip I can suggest is that we should hold up that lucid moment that appears for a few moments, and try to make it last as long as possible! it's not a bet, it's a loan that we do to ourselves hoping that one day we can pay.

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SmallOsteosclerosis t1_j6zg6af wrote

Reply to How to trust the process? [Discussion] by Less-Communication97

None of us know precisely what this life has in store for us! That is part of the beauty and of course the cause for some angst. The key is to keep on bettering yourself, if even just incrementally. This process of betterment is a solo job but eventually someone will either walk into your life or youll get to a place where you’re content either way. I say this as someone who has been in your shoes. Good luck!

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