Is that Mel Gibson on #2

Marcus Aurelius was such a fluke, in the history of Rome, lasting over a thousand years, you can count on one hand the number of Emperors with this level of moral and philosophical clarity.

Well it was just an example but I guess in a way it's one of my goals, since all friends I had/have settled down and changed from 'apping daily' to 'seeing eachother once every 2 months'. I can be quite the loner and perfectly fine spending weeks without seeing anyone but I guess everyone likes having some people you feel comfortable around.But I'd think the best approach to that is 'doing things that appeal to you so you'll meet people with common interests' and then there I get kinda stuck again. (Like for example I'm very invested in pop music but I don't like big crowds so I don't enjoy concerts so that leaves... hanging around in record stores?? Well and online communities I guess but I have no lack of online people to discuss things with)

And going to things/activities in hopes of meeting people/making friends kinda reminds me of how as a teen/twentier I used to spend every night out hoping to find love, like it feels there's an element of desperation/wanting it too much to it when you're chasing it instead of letting things just happen organically? But then it's not like a lot happens organically when I spend all my time at home so I do feel I should find something I find worth spending time on out of the house..

11. Clean your room, probably

I thought that when I was writing it. :') But I kept it a bit vague, so maybe others could recognize something in it and know they can do it too. I just never learned to use the love I gave to others for myself and now that I do its life the sun just shines brighter! Well I guess there was an easy way to say that haha

What a pleb.

It sounds like your goal is to make friends. That's the only thing you wrote that you care about.

That's a good goal to focus on, that will be more satisfying than most things you could chase. Now you just need to figure out how to achieve that.

For example if you start a course with the goal of making friends, don't click with any one, then drop the course. Remember your goal. Then find another situation where you might meet some one, repeat.

I think one issue you have, is you want to have tons of different goals, but when you spread yourself thin, you achieve nothing. Making a friend is a good first goal. Achieve that.

The second picture looks like Mel Gibson

Well done! Keep going!

I'm already doing the occasional meditation which does help me relax a bit but thusfar it never gave me any.. insights? (will look into yogic breathing and pranayama though!)

You actually are miserable jfc

There’s clearly two interpretations to this comic… chill out

May be you should start yogic breathing ,basic pranayama and progress towards meditation.That will help you to find what you are looking for

8 hit pretty close to home

Love this!

If you practice meditation, you will discover it is actually true. It doesn't even take that much to gain those benefits.

The feelings will dissolve without having to be reacted to. Eventually you are just observing the feelings without them consuming you or controlling you, and they can pass very quickly.

The more you meditate, the faster and easier it becomes, and the stronger the feelings you can allow to dissolve.

Nah. Its like be nice, but dont be a fool or a victim. If someone is a douche to others, dont expect them to treat you differently once they inevitably get triggered by some perceived or imagined wrong they blame you for.

You can be kind, but you must also enforce your boundaries. Thats part of having self respect. And you can gently but firmly throw a criminals ass in jail where they cant harm anyone else. (Jail is still a kindness, compared to the execution they might deserve.

Being kind isn't the same as being a doormat.

Too bad he forgot rule 11. “Don’t give commodus increased influence and power when he clearly doesn’t follow your ideals”

In my experience those people that believe that have a lot more problams than just that

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Wisdom is timeless

Lol manosphere alert, Adin Ross incoming

I had a very similair experience when I moved to NL.

Tried to force social interactions at bars, clubs etc to no avail.

The best thing I ever did was join a bouldering gym.

very friendly and approachable atmosphere, typically they have a bar and sometimes bbq events in summer. Good fun and exercise too!

A real life hack for building a social network from scratch in my experience (and others).

How would 1 do this? 6 months is not that long.

I am 23 and feel old and regret not doing fun stuff. Busy with last year of computer science but i dont want to become a programmer anymore.

I dont have a lot of friends, i am broke and have 30k student debt. I am not fit and drug addicted. No drivers license or a vehicle.

How would i fix this in 6 months?

It's a hard balance though. Feeling something initially is good, blocking that feeling alltogether can be detrimental. However, after that initial feeling it is up to the individual what to do with it.

What a wonderful story. Thank you for sharing!