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My best advice is don’t let the world guide you or don’t “go with the flow”. I felt like this for a long time, so rant incoming. You want to really know how the world works? Money. That is it. There’s no gimmick. Everyone wants your money, everyone is operating to take your money, and everyone who has money is working to get more and maintain or increase generational wealth and elitist social circles. Don’t steal or break laws, but everything is up for grabs and you just have to play the game. Idk about you, but I grew up in a low-middle income American household and EVERY perception of how things work or why we can or can’t do things because “that’s just not what people like us can do” is WRONG. Get rid of any self-imposed rules or culturally constructed norms and take the world by the horns. Do not settle or become complacent. Once you truly believe you can achieve anything, you will want to achieve something. Make a 1, 3, 5, and 10 year goal where each goal is made of steps to reach the next one. Do this with finances, career, hobbies, relationships, literally anything. Lastly, your network is everything. Hang out with people who have goals. Find mentors. Get in with anyone who’s achieved something significant. The work hard mantra is a fucking lie. It’s 80% who you know and 20% having enough skill to do whatever. Hopefully any of this resonates with you! There’s more to life than waking up and clocking in. Depends on what you want vs what you settle for.

Probably 50% of the time. 40% of the time I'm just snacking on something (not junk food though), and maybe 10% of what I eat is fast/junk food.

Is that true?

What is ening? "Ening up there"

do you cook for yourself?

This is the definition of toxic positivity.

This is the exact situation you must walk away from

I mean, as far as a plant is concerned, that’s a pretty decent environment.

Maybe your brain is dopamine deficient and you need to get tested. I myself just recently discovered I have adhd, I’m 39. I started talking to a therapist describing much of what you’re describing; lack of will, no motivation, exhaustion. She told me that adhd in women can manifest as depression. I took a tova test at a behavioral clinic and wouldn’t you know it. I have it. I’m on an antidepressant and a low dose of adderall. It’s been a complete game changer. I’m present, I’m confident, and I want to paint again. The drugs help, but it’s also a sense of validation. I’ve gone my whole life beating myself up for not being able to focus and constantly daydreaming. I got labeled by friends and family because of it and slowly over the years made a series of poor decisions. Now I have something I can point to as to why. I had a deficiency that needed to be treated. That was all. I’m not saying that’s what is going on with you, but you’re worth looking into.

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R/happy and r/congratulatemelikeimfive are pretty good for this

But like not ideally

Bring up the or realizing you made it to zen

r/eyebleach

Enjoy plant jail !

Haha I’ve def had periods of dealing with bad death anxiety, but lately reading about things like this have helped me

I hope this post has more insight than stress for you!

Then you just spent 9 months in hot goo.

Damn, things seem hectic but you still come off as composed—really putting your life in your hands and driving it

That’s inspiring to hear

Also, I’ve often thought about going to school later in life for a passion of mine (animation) so that’s a nice thing to see from someone else

Really appreciate this insightful comment! Thanks for sharing your current experience 🙌

Also glad I could remind you of the song Vienna again haha! Going to listen to “A little bit if everything” right now

This is one of the worst possible images for this message

If you want to detoxify your brain, stop going on the internet

I have death anxiety. I'm not sure yet if this gives me comfort or not lol

You prompted me to listen to the song after many years since hearing it last. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it on the regular since.

So… I’m 36. Divorced… in the midst of going back to school to pursue my passion. Moved to Canada to live for cheap with a friend. Struggled with addiction.

My advice… take it one day at a time. Some days you have to buckle down and get shit done. But others, you have to be still and know… enjoy… chill.

A song you might enjoy: “A little bit of everything” by Dawes.

Cheers!

*edit, typo

Haha yeah I did post it before!

The discussion was so great I wanted to see if anyone had fresh perspectives 😄

I feel like I saw this exact post 1-3 months ago

Wow that’s awesome to hear

It’s motivating to see that we can pick up a craft and study it at any time

I hope to continue doing the same as you—learn, try new things, and explore

Thanks for sharing this 😄