Recent comments in /f/Connecticut

Poseylady t1_j6ojdi5 wrote

I originally had one but haven't had it on my car in years and it's been a nonissue. Once a few years ago I got a warning note left on my car when I had it facing out in a parking spot. But I still haven't replaced the front plate and it's never been brought up again. I'm probably jinxing myself and tomorrow I'll get a ticket for no front plate, but I've had a good run!

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Kolzig33189 OP t1_j6oiyhz wrote

I don’t even know if what I said is exactly what’s going on, but that’s just my guess. I had a friend in HS in mid 00s that had the same thing happen to him as you, so maybe the rules were changed.

You would think though that someone who committed a “serious assault” per the article two days before his incident probably shouldn’t be in school for at least a few days.

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crowan83 t1_j6oibas wrote

Reply to comment by Demofied in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

We get this a lot. Our usual response is that you don’t get in shape to go to the gym. You go to the gym to get in shape. Same with BJJ. You come here to get in shape. We all started out knowing nothing and getting our butts kicked. With time and dedication, you’ll lose weight, learn the art and gain the other benefits we spoke of. Self-confidence, the potential for improved mental health, friendships and camaraderie. If money is an issue I’m willing to offer you a free month of training!

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phabphour20 t1_j6ohylv wrote

For me and my family (and my co-workers), the calculus has changed since Covid. We used to send kids to school with coughs or runny noses all the time. Now the bar is a bit higher (or lower) and we keep them home more to be safe. I hope other parents in our community are doing the same. It is much easier now for a lot of people to work from home and thus not need emergency childcare for a sick day.

The days of being a martyr and coming into the office when sick are certainly over. At least in the white collar office environment where I work. I just log in from home and do Zoom meetings when necessary.

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Yum_Kaax t1_j6ogy7n wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

Well, the idea is that you understand where you need to be as the priority in your life, which, if you two can get through this, is also where you need to be for your family. However the feelings of your partner is not in your control, so you could do everything right to be in the place you need to be while she simply chooses to not be with you.

The partner and family is a priority, but one cannot better themselves for the sake of their family. It doesn't work that way. You have to do it for yourself and let gravity do the rest. Otherwise you wind up with the 'i did it all for them" which tends to cause a massive nosedive if the hurt cannot be reconciled. Sort of a way of saying "hey, I made all these changes, I did the work, if you choose to leave me, it's now all your fault." Sort of absolves a person from blame when the original problem may still remain in your partners mind. As I said, learn to accept that she may not be able to reconcile the past no matter what you do.

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laceyourbootsup t1_j6oewz7 wrote

Reply to comment by ccorbs89 in In Need of a Friend.. by ccorbs89

I was never really looking for a “community” when I joined and found myself turning down weekly invites to grab drinks or just hang out.

I found it later in life when I had a family and no time for developing new friendships.

But I have always thought, if I ever needed to develop a group of friends and didn’t know where to start - a Crossfit gym would be like kindling to get a fire started

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yeet41 t1_j6oevko wrote

Reply to $91.04 by fladerade

That’s wild my employer gave us 1000.00. Got eaten up by taxes but what else is new.

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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6od9hx wrote

Have you spoken to your kids about their behavior? Have you spoken to the teachers and administrators about this decision? Have you gone to a school board meeting and made your concerns heard? Just curious. We recently had a similar situation where I live, I asked my kid about it and he admitted that the kids in the situation are extremely disruptive. Two sides to every story.

My impulse is to always talk to the adults first, get their perspective and go from there.

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