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sugarmag13 t1_jegvnd4 wrote

Do not~

Breaking the cycle means letting it go. Sending anything to him will give him satisfaction. You will not get closure, the last word or a gotcha last word.

You should get some professional help to help you deal with letting go and breaking the cycle.

Do not respond and when he shows up next time tell your H to slam the door in his face. No texts, emails, or calls.

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Protect_Wild_Bees t1_jegvmzc wrote

Sometimes cutting that connection can also be a very kind and respectful thing to do.

If you know that person is going to hurt you, cause chaos, make you angry and disappointed, one of the best things I think you can do sometimes is cut your losses so you don't keep hurting eachother, or they can no longer fail you.

Had to do this with my father and at the time I did it out of trauma and anger, but I keep it going so in my mind, he never has to hurt me again. he never has to worry about me being angry, totally betrayed and disappointed by his behaviour ever again. I like to think maybe he doesn't want that.

Whether he does or not, I see it better for us both.

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anasui1 t1_jegvmxi wrote

love how socially relevant discourse in these shows is manifactured by creating an absolutely idiotic sci fi premise that will never happen, kinda killing the believability of the discourse altogether

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